I think your wife is right. My guess is: Mockingbird. It doesn't have the markings around the face like a blue-jay. It has the black markings on its wings and black band/bar through its eye like a mockingbird.

It looks like it may have the crest on its head like a blue-jay, but if I look closer... it may just be the color of the branch behind it.

That's just a guess.