FINALLY!!!!
Enough of that crap I bought off ebay, I went and bought an Alien Bee 400. Just ONE. The shot I posted, still has a shadow cast by my cheapy fill light which is so bright and I cannot back it up anyfurther or it will hit the wall. But who cares, finally, a shot that doesn't have huge shadows or extreme blinding bright spots.
Thanks to all for your help, I think that I am finally catching on.
After I posted my last post about wall colors, we had 3 inches of rain and my basement flooded and got some backdrops wet, but who cares - I love my Alien Bee.
On cloud nine,
Aaron