Liz,
I didn't forget about my promise to help you with photoshop conversion to bw. It's just that there are quite a few ways to do this, and I wanted to sift through them to try to figure out which one might be best to start you off with.
As you and many others have discovered, the two most obvious ways to convert a basic RGB image to b&w in photoshop, IMAGE>MODE>GRAYSCALE and IMAGE>ADJUSTMENTS>DESATURATE, while quick and easy, produce relatively poor results.
This is another method that I've been using for a while, and after viewing one of the video lessons of the Epson Online Print Academy, I've picked up a couple of extra steps from pro photographer Greg Gorman.
Start with a COPY file of your image with what looks like basically correct tonality, IOW proper white, mid, and black points (levels or curves can correct this).
Choose IMAGE>MODE>LAB COLOR Don't worry about the flatten option just yet.
In the CHANNELS palette, click on the LIGHTNESS channel.
Choose IMAGE>MODE>GRAYSCALE (Discard other channels OK).
CONTROL CLICK on the GRAY CHANNEL in the CHANNELS palette. This loads LUMINOSITY as a selection. Choose SELECT>INVERSE, then IMAGE>MODE>RGB COLOR.
In the LAYERS palette (at the bottom), click on the CREATE NEW ADJUSTMENT LAYER icon. From the menu choose SOLID COLOR.
In the COLOR SWATCHES palette, click the eyedropper tool on a NEUTRAL GRAY. The choice is not crucial, just eyeball a middle gray. Click OK on the COLOR PICKER window.
Your image is now a fairly flat gray, but that will soon change...
Change the LAYER MODE (top of LAYERS palette) to MULTIPLY. This is now your basic bw image. If the contrast is not as you like it, click on the CREATE NEW ADJUSTMENT LAYER icon again, and choose LEVELS. Move your midpoint slider until the image looks the best. Click OK...
This should be your final image, which you can now copy and flatten, but if you think a touch of color will make more of an impact, double click on the small color icon in the COLOR FILL layer (should be the second one from the top). This brings up the COLOR PICKER, and you can choose any color to tint your image. Click OK, then adjust the OPACITY of that COLOR FILL layer using the top right slider to get it exactly as you want.
I know this method may seem complicated on the surface, but if you copy down all the steps and go through them methodically, it really doesn't take long to do. Any questions about any of this, please let me know...