Personal problem...help please!

[Frog]

I’m at a bit of a loss as to what to do. This maybe a strange place to flag such a personal matter up but you seem like a pretty level headed lot so I thought I’d cast the net and see what advice I got.

Ok, deep breath…..

For sometime now I've suspected that my wife may be cheating. You know the sort of thing. The phone rings, I answer, someone hangs up.

Recently she has started going out 'with the girls' a lot and when I ask which girls it's always "Just some friends, you don't know them".

I always used to keep an eye out for her taxi coming home but now she always walks up to the house although I can hear a car setting off as if she has just got out of one around the corner.

The other day I picked up her mobile, just to see what time it was, and she went nuts, screaming at me that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.

Anyway, I have never broached the subject with her. I kind of think deep down I don't really want to know the truth. But then last night she went out again and I decided that I would check up on her.

Around the time she was due home I decided to hide behind my car which I knew would give me a good view of the whole street so I could see which car she got out of on her return.

It was whilst crouched behind my car that I noticed a scrape around my rear wheel arch.

So, …. do you think I should take it into a body repair shop or should I buy some stuff from Halfords car shop and try to repair it myself?

[Greg McCary]

I think I would definitely see a counsler. There are more in your position than you would think. My heart goes out to you from all the way across the country. If I can do anything feel free to drop me a line.

[GB1]

Frog - Sorry and if I'm off base please chalk it up to cluenessish on my part, but is this a joke..? I read your whole writeup of the situation, and you finish it by telling us about a relatively insignificant matter of a scrape on your car's real wheel arch (?) I don't see how this is relevant, so I ask myself, is he joking?

If not, sorry.

G

[walterick]

I think I've heard this one before

If not, I'm sure you'll get lots of advice up here! I'd go to a repair shop, btw.

[another view]

A guy I don't know really well sent me this by email, but a kayak version. I completely fell for it until the last line!

[Greg McCary]

Well I feel for it hook line and sinker. I wondered why were so worried about your car? If it had been your camera I would have goten it I'm sure......

[Frog]

LOL, Greg I should have thought of saying something about my camera.
Sorry if I put you through any distress there!

[mn shutterbug]

I got a good laugh out of this one, partially thanks to Greg. :thumbsup:

[Franglais]

I would just leave it the way it is. My car has a dent on the rear wheel arch from when I backed into pillar at the shopping mall and a scrape on the front bumper which I have never understood, my car was nicely parked and the other guy would have had to drive over the pavement to get at it. That's not bad for 4 years in the Paris area (touchwoodtouchwoodtouchwood).

What do you mean that's not the right answer?

Oh the stuff about your wife cheating on you? Women do that from time to time. It stops them from getting bored. The important thing is - does she still get home in time to cook the dinner? Just be careful when she goes all weepy (that means it's over - but don't ask questions). That's the opportunity to take her somewhere nice (Marrakesh for instance) to make her forget it ever happened.